Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Intervention


Stalker and I spoke again last night. He has cut me off from my addicktion. No more sex. He said he needs to clear his mind and figure out what he wants. That's pretty much all the conversation boils down to. He isn't back together with his "ex". He isn't having sex with either of us (so he says). He just wants to step away from the physical and clear the cloudiness in his head. So yeah...still no answers and now no sex...

9 comments:

Enigma Jones said...

I don't want to bring negativity into this but when I heard this from someone I'd been seeing he was already dating someone else and just didn't have the guts to tell me the truth. You can't count on guys (or ppl in general) to give you the whole story. I would strongly suggets that you begin to distance yourself and let HIM come to YOU if he so chooses. The decision to not sleep together shoudl be yours untikl he can make a concreet decision on you or her. No one deserves to be an OPTION and it seems like that is exactly what he is making you-regardless of what you knew coming into this. If he wants you, HE will come to YOU and tell you this. Until then you should start your own detoxing process and start to move on. As comlex and over as their relationship may seem to you (on the outside) there's something that's holding him to her besides obligation. I hope this works out for you the way you want it to.

Dater at Large said...

What?! How dare he cut you off from awesome sex while he thinks about feelings!! Of course, it is better to figure out what you want when you're clothed and sober.

*uncorked said...

Addicktion may be my new favorite word.

jo said...

maybe no sex will help you as well to distance yourself and perhaps come to some answers of your own.

StudentOfLife said...

Sounds like he's finally growing up. I'm glad he's made this step. Rather he figure it out than keep you in limbo.

The Angel and Demon Within said...

Enigma, I loved the "Detox" term here! Yep, let's set Sane up on some special diet that will help with the addicktion. Hmmm, wonder what type of soup would work for that...

I'm glad Stalker is thinking of himself and what he wants and not just waiting for the ex to decide. I hate it that it puts you right back in the spot you were before.

However, remember you still have choices.

I know you are feeling down. Your in my thoughts and I'm ALWAYS only a phone call away. Love YOU!

crys said...

are you ready for jokes yet?

it's a little weird with you calling him STALKER - in light of all the recent events don't you think?!?!? he certainly don't seem like a STALKER to me at all....

let's think of a new name for him, shall we?

:-)

Kitty Moore said...

Set a deadline in your own head for the cloudiness in his head to clear - then move on.

Young woman on a journey said...

awww. i know how this feels. it sucks. but i just echo everyone else's advice.