Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Distractions

I've decided that I need a distraction. A distraction from Stalker. I care about him, but I am realistic...it's not real likely that his "situation" will end anytime soon. So needless to say, it would be a safety-net for my feelings if there was someone else hanging around. I thought Bookstore Boy would be a possibility, but I never heard from him again after I called him a homophob! I've been reading what you all have said. And yes, it is unfair that he has his "ex" and I have no one to fall back on. At the time I met Stalker though, I was still hanging on to MatchMan. I've decided to join E-harmony.

I initially created my profile on there because of Stalker. We thought it would be fun if their personality matching expertise would match us up. We weren't matched. But I kept getting emails galore from the website. I decided to give it a try on the same day that Stalker was out of state. So far, it's a whole lotta uninteresting. I'm sorry...I can't vibe with just anyone. This is why Stalker is so unusual.

Ex-Coworker keeps texting and asking when he can see me. Again, he is a nice guy...not as bright as I prefer and we can get along only in short spurts of time. I'm wondering if it's even worth trying to plan some time together.

5 comments:

Dater at Large said...

I'm glad you're hedging your bets with Stalker... but I feel you on eHarmony. I joined a few years back and everyone they matched me with seemed so... blah. Something about the structure of the communication didn't work for me, either. What about going back to Match?

jo said...

i think it's a great idea for you to try and find other distractions. diversify. don't put all your eggs in one basket and all that. yeah perhaps you could try other websites as well to see if you find someone you at least somewhat vibe with.

The Angel and Demon Within said...

If you know Ex-Coworker can't keep your attention then don't waste your time on him.

Don't start dating someone new until you have had that talk with Stalker.

Dimplz said...

Good idea. I think even if nothing comes from it, at least you are keeping yourself distracted.

Violet said...

At the risk of being the pot calling the kettle black...

Perhaps you need a distraction that is not man/dating-related. Maybe this is a good time to focus on other aspects of your life.

I want a relationship very badly. I want that relationship to be with Himself. It seems, though, that the time for that is not now (and I don't know if it ever will be with Himself) so I am working to turn my attention away from that desire and pour my energies into areas of my life I can control. It's very difficult and so far I fail more often than I succeed...but I'm trying.