Saturday, August 23, 2008

The FWB Strikes Again!

Due to an exhausting week, I hit the sack early last night. As I was lying in bed watching Clueless (got a problem with that?), the text alert on my cell went off. After a few minutes, I rolled over to see who it was. Lo and behold, the FWB strikes again! The following is the text message in its entirety:

FWB: "Can I come fuck you tomorrow?"

You may ask yourself, "Did Sane respond to this asinine behavior?" The answer is a resounding "NOOOOOO!!!!"

Need I remind you that I haven't had sex with nor spoken to this man in close to four months! That text wouldn't have been quite so surprising when we were doing the deed and in contact on the regular. He has sent me the random text during that time about wanting to get some. I've given him no attention. I mean, would it pain him too much to just pick up the phone and dial my number?

The lack of actual conversation is what began to turn me off during our "relationship". Yes, I'm aware that it was simply a sexual thing, but if you can't stimulate my mind just a lil bit, I get BORED!! So yeah, all desire for the FWB is gone, daddy gone!

13 comments:

Cheryl said...

I have been trying to tactfully write a blog about this and I still can't without tons of profanity. Thanks for saying it. I get random texts from someone I briefly dated and had unmemorable sex with twice...three years ago. Every few weeks for the past few months I get "I'm So Horny" or "I Want To Do You" and I can't even reply. My replies would be so cheap and sarcastic that I want to save them for someone who I really want to piss off. :)
You're awesome!

lisaq said...

SHUT. UP. I'd have had to reply with, 'Seriously? I'm celibate and it's all your fault. Hadn't you heard? You drove me to it.' True or not. I applaud your restraint.

Okay who am I kidding? When I get a random text from the former FWB, I always just reply with 'Sorry, already asleep...rain check?' Of course, I never cash in the rain checks. Still, I suck. You, my friend, rock. hard.

Anonymous said...

Why, WHy, WHY are some men so damn clueless?
I applaud your restraint!

Frances

jo said...

i'm terrible at the non response thing. i would have responded saying somthing like i wasn't free and hoped that after a few times of perpetually not being free, he'd get the idea that i wasn't into it.

and yes i need my mind stimulated as well.

Who's That Gurl? said...

I'm proud of ya, girl! This is so disrepectful. Hate to sound cliche, but you deserve more. I personally know it's not easy being celibate but to give it up for that guy would only cause regret.

Ecrivain said...

You handled it in the right way -- that's my opinion, anyway.

Silence says more...and it's a classier response, I think, because if you had written something it might have been construed as, "She's given this way too much thought. She thinks about me."

The no-response is the best response because it says, "You're not even worth the few seconds it'd take to text you back."

Mizrepresent said...

Gurl, i hear you, loud and clear, lol!

ubuntu said...

ecrivain, but she did think about it and blogged about it, maybe not to him, but thinks she did :)

Btw, Sane you are doing the right thing. I like your steely determination.

confessionofsbw said...

Men get me with trying to straddle the fence. On one hand they want a sex buddy but on the other hand they don't want the responsibility of having a relationship. No FWBs here.

Lance said...

That's really bad game on his part. Pure laziness. If I was reconnecting with an old FB, I would definitely flirt and chat her up over text so it wouldn't seem so shocking. Hell, I would have met for DRINKS first! Dude, what's wrong with having drinks with your FB? I actually like spending time with my FB's.

SaneAndSingle said...

Lance,
That's EXACTLY why I lost interest! The fun of it all was lost. He stopped flirting and actually doing stuff with me, and it became ONLY about sex. It got old quickly.

blackwomenblowthetrumpet.blogspot.com said...

Hey there!

Are you SURE he didn't send out a group text??? You know some brothas do that just to see if anyone is down for a booty call who is on their "I hit that" list.... that is why they send a text that does not have a name of anyone... it's "hey there..." type of thing...

Some are so totally TRIFLING...


{shaking my head}
Lisa

Therapeutic Ramblings said...

Wow...there is blunt...and then there is blunt. What an idiot.

Btw...I disagree with silence, because someone that dense won't get it, and he'll keep trying....I mean, it didn't matter to him that it'd had been months, so why would a non-response magically make him get a clue?