Wednesday, December 10, 2008

The Meeting

Okay, here is the long-awaited story of the meeting with the LD Man.

I drove 9, yes NINE, hours to get to him. I checked into a hotel, because we both agreed that I would feel more comfortable staying there the first night. I freshened up and then called him. He came right over. As soon as we saw one another we hugged so tightly I could hardly breathe.

He decided he would take me out to dinner and then show me around his city. We ate at this cute little German restaurant. Although the food wasn't so good, the atmosphere and company was. After dinner, we went for a walk around the neighborhood of the restaurant. We just walked and talked. Once I was too cold to walk anymore, we got in his truck and rode around the city, while he showed me all his favorite places. Then he took me to his favorite book store, where we shared novels we had read and wanted to read.

So I spent a good 3-4 hours with LD Man before he took me back to my hotel room. Toward the end of the night, we got more and more quiet. I knew we were both exhausted, so I figured that was why.

We hugged again at the hotel. He told me to call him when I woke and we would go for breakfast and hang out some before his meeting at 11:00.* I would find something to do while he was at his meeting, and then we would get back together for more fun! That was the plan...

I woke around 7:45 and called LD Man. I got his voicemail and left a message. Once I jumped in the shower, the thought "What if he doesn't call back?" entered my mind. He finally returned my call about 30 minutes later. He told me then that he had decided to go into work to pick up something real quick and got stuck there. He would be at my hotel in about 45 minutes or so. An hour went by, and I had to check out of the hotel in a couple hours. He had a meeting in one hour. I didn't know the city at all. I called him, and he again apologized and said he was still stuck. Then he goes on to say, "Did you really think we vibed last night?" I said, "yes." He was shocked and said, "Well, I didn't." Jaw on floor...

He then proceeded to tell me that he thought if we were just casually dating, that would be cool because I'm really sexy and cool and smart...blah blah blah. BUT he is looking for his wife, and we didn't vibe like he should when he's found his wife. HUH??? Then this man had the nerve to ask me to book another night at the hotel, so we could talk about it later. Again....HUH??? He wanted me to spend MY MONEY to stay in a hotel for ANOTHER night so he could tell me again that I am not wife material. HUH???

I packed my shit up and hit the road. I told him I couldn't spend more money to be rejected again. He told me that we would always be friends.

*I knew about this meeting before I went. It was a work thing that he couldn't get out of.

13 comments:

Dimplz said...

Wow...just wow. I am not going to blame you for this slew of way too frank (read: rude) men who come into your life, but are you giving off a vibe that says, "Treat me badly?" I am not trying to be mean by asking, but I am just wondering why this happens to you consistently. Or perhaps for the sake of the blog, you just talk about the rude boys?

I am sorry about LD man.

SaneAndSingle said...

I began this blog because I kept running into the rude men that I do. It isn't just me though, but all my single girlfriends. I've included some of their stories here. I don't think I give off that vibe at all. If anything, I carry myself with confidence and self-respect. That's the point of this blog...to put on display all the ridiculous and asinine stuff going on out there. I'm very friendly to everyone, so maybe that is the problem. But I'm also brutally honest when called for.

Scotty said...

Wow... how long had you talked to him (know him) beforehand?

SaneAndSingle said...

Scotty...we had been talking for 5 months on the phone...almost daily.

He told me he would love to have sex with me and date me casually if we were in the same city.

Apparently, there is just something about me that screams, "Sex Kitten" or something! LOL

Dimplz said...

I understand what you mean. I run into rude guys but I have also dated some really sweet ones. I was just hoping that not all of the dudes you run into are like this. They aren't though, right?

lisaq said...

Oh girl! How disappointing! I'm sorry you had to waste so much energy, not to mention time and money, on him only to have him pull this. Ugh!!

Scotty said...

Crazy how you could talk for so long/often, yet in the end one doesnt like the other in the way they thought.

AMY said...

HA! "FOR THE SAKE OF THE BLOG, JUST TALKING ABOUT THE RUDE BOYS?" LMAO!!! I WISH!!! AND YOU GIVING OFF A "TREAT ME BADLY" VIBE??? PAAAALEEEEEZ!!! I KNOW DIMPLZ WASN'T TRYING TO BE MEAN, BUT THAT JUST SOUNDED SO ABSURD TO SOMEONE WHO KNOWS YOU BETTER.

My poor friend, I feel for ya. I really, really do. I know how crushed and angry you were and I know how badly you wanted this to work out. He's so full of bull shit that it makes me sick! I'm glad that you went though and found out what you needed to know and I won't waste my carpal tunnel talking about him any more.

P.S. Santa's got you on his Naughty Vibe list!

Anonymous said...

Dimplz... no it's not just a vibe that SaneAndSingle is giving off. This is happening all over in the single world. From my experience, and I've been divorced 12 years, it seems to be getting worse. I'm not sure why, maybe with the new technology of the internet and cell phones now. Or maybe their mama's didn't raise them right or maybe they just don't care... I'm not really sure what the reasoning behind all the rudeness is.

SAS- He's a big jerk. Especially for you to have talked on the phone for 5 months and him to do this. He's not worth another thought! I do have a question, Why did he not come to your city and spend his money to see you? What was his excuse? Work? lol... Just wondering. I think if they're willing to put forth that effort to come to me at the beginning then they might be boyfriend material. If they're not willing to do that then it's their loss. On the the next one.

Elusive Butterfly said...

Yikes. What is *up* with men these days? Honestly though, I don't think it's "these days". I think it's an age thing. Once you get past say 25, if you find a guy that's single, he has got to be damaged because otherwise some woman somewhere would have scooped up his halfway decent ass and locked him in for life. I almost did that but I'm way happier now than I was when I was unsingle. I have to say though, LD is a moron for making such a ridiculous snap judgement. Because how can you possibly know whether someone is "IT" that quickly? Seriously. Guy is *dumb* and you deserve someone who is at least a few IQ points smarter!

CurvyGurl said...

Ugh! What a disappointment. So sorry, babes. I just don't get it. Good riddance to bad rubbish...the nerve.

Roxy said...

I am sooooo sorry babe!

I know he hurt your feelings, but he also did you a HUGE favor by not leading you on.

You did the smart thing by running ASAP.

I'm sorry again though. I was really rooting for this one.

IIDLYYCKMA said...

You are so out of his league, the dumbass did you a HUGE favor.

On to bigger and better things my darling, and I bet he had a small penis:)