Monday, October 13, 2008

Spank Me, I've Been Naughty!

After moping around the house and cursing the LD Man and his disappearing act yesterday, a couple friends took me out to dinner so we could eat and drown my sorrows in Jack Daniels. While at the sports bar, my phone rang. Guess who??? Uh huh, the LD Man. I couldn't bring myself to answer the phone, as I had just begun to smile, laugh, and stop worrying about what happened. Like I told my friend, I would rather just not hear from him again, because it makes it easier to let go.

After we finished our meal, we just had to know what he had to say for himself. As I listened to his voicemail, my jaw dropped. According to his message, his brother was shot in Iraq, and he was calling me from his parents' house (which is a couple hours away from where he lives). He apologized and told me that he swears he will make it up to me. I don't know what to think, feel, or say. He tried to call again just as we were leaving the restaurant. I still couldn't bring myself to answer. I had a sexcapade to get to anyway.

Sexcapade you ask??? Well, as any woman would do in a time of crisis, I called my girlfriend earlier that day. During our conversation, she offered up the old cliche, "The best way to get over a man is to get under another one." All it took was one impulsive text message to the FWB and we had a plan for him to meet me back at my place later that night! *hangs head in shame* I'm not longer celibate. Please spank me, I've been a naughty naughty girl. And I liked it!


jo said...

whoa! back to the fwb eh :P

and that's sad bout LD Man's brother... did you call him back?

SaneAndSingle said...

I did call him back this morning. I got his voicemail and left a message.


I am a new reader and you had me at spank:) I am so reading! hahahaha!

I hope it was good!

Dimplz said...

I don't know I can't judge you for what you did. Just a question I guess. I am not sure what your reasons for celibacy are, so if you betrayed those reasons for a night with the FWB, I guess you have to ask yourself if it has made your reasons to quit sex valid or if it has caused you to slip back into comfortable habits because saying "YES" is much easier than saying "NO." Does that make sense?

If you feel the same as before, then I guess no harm done right?

CurvyGurl said...

I guess it goes without saying that you're over the LD Man incident...LOL.

Non Sequitur Chica said...

Oh no for LD Man's brother! That would definitely be a good excuse for his MIA status. Is his brother okay?

Amy said...

Yous gots needs and dem needs gots to be met sometimes. Ya know? I think what you're doing is smart. You know what you want and you seem to be level headed about your decisions. Most importantly, you're enjoying a safe, healthy, fun sex and dating life. If that's what makes YOU happy, then I'm happy for you!
As far as LD Man? Well, you know that I still have a weird feeling about him but I guess he deserves a fair chance to make it up to you due to the circumstances.
P.S. That girlfried of yours and her witty old cliches??? She friggin' ROCKS! LOL

SaneAndSingle said...

Dimplz- I'm going to have to get back to on that. I honestly didn't give it much thought. I was lonely. I did what lonely people sometimes do. I don't regret it. I'm just going to take things day by day.

Curvy- I don't know that I'm over it. I still want to hear what he has to say.

Chica- I agree that it is a good excuse, which is why I'm still going to be there for him.

Amy- Thanks so much for your support. I really don't know what I would do without you! :)

Just an update to this post: The LD Man has called me back, but I missed his call. So now we seem to be in a game of phone tag. He is currently "it". So I have no new details.

lisaq said...

Wow! How crazy is that? Be sure to keep us posted.

As for the FWB, shit happens. Don't beat yourself up over it. Sometimes it's just what we have to do.

Roxy said...

Never expect anything... that's been my rule and it has worked wonders.

I'm sorry his brother got shot... but I do love your friend's advice.

This is why I generally date 3 guys at the same time. I'll never worry when one doesn't call.

Men are not worth the emotional torment ALL women go through.

ubuntu said...

I bet you like it :) spanking that is.

The Angel and Demon Within said...

Hey Baby Girl! So sorry that your weekend didn't live up to your hopes. I'm with Amy; I'm starting to get an odd feeling about this one too. Just play it safe.

We all have our weak moments and go back to what we know (for good or bad). You know FWB for what he is so your heart is safe.

Big hug!