The ignoring isn't working? Damn, he must be a glutton for punishment. I would probably answer, "My day is splendid. Have a great week and weekend!" That should buy you a week. LMAO!
Ummm I hate to be the voice of dissention, but why not text him back. Maybe he doesn’t want to speak about the weekend because he isn’t sure. I mean it is obvious he likes you a little bit because he is calling and texting, but doesn’t mean he is ready to be available to you at all time. I mean it actually seems like you may be the one making it a game.
I mean look at it this way. You guys had a good time he let you know he enjoyed your company you even casually talked about hooking up next weekend. Then he calls and text and you are asking about the weekend the weekend…instead of just going with the flow. I mean really if it were me I would just text with him and keep everything easy. I’d make MY plans for the weekend or not or whatever. If he ever got around to asking me to hang out the weekend then I would, well if I was free or if I still wanted to hang out with him. I mean really you guys just went on one date. However maybe I’m wrong I just don’t get pressed and can’t get pressed. I think you should live your life and let him drive the relationship and if he starts heading somewhere you don’t want to politely get out of the car, but hey just my two cents. Do you and whatever works for you. Just seems a lot of drama for someone who doesn’t deserve such discussion.
Thanks for all your input ladies! I honestly don't care for all the texting. There comes a time when someone should just pick up the phone and talk!
OG- You know I have no problem with dissenting opinions! There have been many times I've been the dissenter.
Maybe I should be a little more clear though. He HAS NOT called since the night we went out a week and a half ago. During that date, we didn't just casually mention going out. We actually planned where we were going. He told me at that time he would text me the next morning to let me know if Saturday or Sunday was better. I answered his texts every time, and after going back and forth a while, I asked about the weekend twice during the time span of two days. I don't think that is pressing the issue. I was trying to plan my weekend. Since I had already committed to spending some of it with him, I wanted to leave that time open.
I find it funny that he texted me everyday (no actual phone calls) through Thursday, then nothing until the Tuesday. So how am I the one playing games? I got tired of the same circular text convo so I didn't bother to respond. To use your analogy, I "got out of the car." :)
And as far as drama, there is none. My blog is simply an account of dates I go on and things that happen as a result, so of course this guy will be discussed.
I feel you, Sane. Does he know you don't like to text like that. I prefer texting. I have complete conversations by text. I once had a guy told me he didn't text like that so I called him. Anyway.
My point was I NEVER set aside time for a man I just meet. You need to put in time for me to set aside time. That is what I was saying. SO to me any mention of something he brought up is pressing (but not really- hope you get what I mean). I think he should pursue you and make all the moves in the beginning especially. Its something I started doing a long time ago and it has saved me all that “drama” ( I think drama is pretty much any upheaval or extra thought given to strangers in addition to the typical definition).
Like I said I am not one who gets hard pressed for anyone and MEN love that for some reason. I think its part of the chase thing, I mean I don’t do it for that, but you know.
The only reason I said what I said is you did have a good time but then it seems like you changed gears and rules on him. I mean you may have told him how you felt about texting or even text him call me or called him, however he seems to be getting a lot of strikes for nothing.
There is a guy I have been seeing very casually for 3-4 years (not TOM A), he is a work-aholic he often breaks dates and the time between text is sometimes months. I never trip on him, I simply filed him in the no expectations fun date category. Now a few days ago he text me, after a while of no contact. The last convo we had was he wanted to come see me (like this is the umpteeneth I’m coming to visit you conversation we had) so he text some ol I miss you BS I said whateva and had a polite conversation with him about what was going on in our lives etc. He even tried to be mad I came to town and didn’t tell him. For the record, I didn’t tell him because I was with the one I wanted to be with (TOM A), but anyway he isn’t a person he just we always be a friend to me. I feel it would be dramatical (I know it’s not a word) for me to even give him the energy to be mad at who he is as a person. I find that being a waste of my chi. I hope that makes sense. That’s why I said unnecessary drama. However it’s your life LIVE IT!! I’m sure you are doing what works best for you or asking the obligatory Dr. Phil question of How’s This Behavior working for you?
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I called and gave him a piece of my mind @*&#! Just kidding! Too little, too late?
Honestly... what is the deal with the texting? I can't stand it, so don't feed him anymore bait.... unless you intend to do it as torture.
Why don't you text him back:
"FOAD"
and see if he gets it.
what is up with these games?? geez...
The ignoring isn't working? Damn, he must be a glutton for punishment. I would probably answer, "My day is splendid. Have a great week and weekend!" That should buy you a week. LMAO!
Ummm I hate to be the voice of dissention, but why not text him back. Maybe he doesn’t want to speak about the weekend because he isn’t sure. I mean it is obvious he likes you a little bit because he is calling and texting, but doesn’t mean he is ready to be available to you at all time. I mean it actually seems like you may be the one making it a game.
I mean look at it this way. You guys had a good time he let you know he enjoyed your company you even casually talked about hooking up next weekend. Then he calls and text and you are asking about the weekend the weekend…instead of just going with the flow. I mean really if it were me I would just text with him and keep everything easy. I’d make MY plans for the weekend or not or whatever. If he ever got around to asking me to hang out the weekend then I would, well if I was free or if I still wanted to hang out with him. I mean really you guys just went on one date. However maybe I’m wrong I just don’t get pressed and can’t get pressed. I think you should live your life and let him drive the relationship and if he starts heading somewhere you don’t want to politely get out of the car, but hey just my two cents. Do you and whatever works for you. Just seems a lot of drama for someone who doesn’t deserve such discussion.
-OG
Thanks for all your input ladies! I honestly don't care for all the texting. There comes a time when someone should just pick up the phone and talk!
OG- You know I have no problem with dissenting opinions! There have been many times I've been the dissenter.
Maybe I should be a little more clear though. He HAS NOT called since the night we went out a week and a half ago. During that date, we didn't just casually mention going out. We actually planned where we were going. He told me at that time he would text me the next morning to let me know if Saturday or Sunday was better. I answered his texts every time, and after going back and forth a while, I asked about the weekend twice during the time span of two days. I don't think that is pressing the issue. I was trying to plan my weekend. Since I had already committed to spending some of it with him, I wanted to leave that time open.
I find it funny that he texted me everyday (no actual phone calls) through Thursday, then nothing until the Tuesday. So how am I the one playing games? I got tired of the same circular text convo so I didn't bother to respond. To use your analogy, I "got out of the car." :)
And as far as drama, there is none. My blog is simply an account of dates I go on and things that happen as a result, so of course this guy will be discussed.
You certainly are not pressing the issue. Keep up the ignoring though and eventually the assclown will give up.
I feel you, Sane. Does he know you don't like to text like that. I prefer texting. I have complete conversations by text. I once had a guy told me he didn't text like that so I called him. Anyway.
My point was I NEVER set aside time for a man I just meet. You need to put in time for me to set aside time. That is what I was saying. SO to me any mention of something he brought up is pressing (but not really- hope you get what I mean). I think he should pursue you and make all the moves in the beginning especially. Its something I started doing a long time ago and it has saved me all that “drama” ( I think drama is pretty much any upheaval or extra thought given to strangers in addition to the typical definition).
Like I said I am not one who gets hard pressed for anyone and MEN love that for some reason. I think its part of the chase thing, I mean I don’t do it for that, but you know.
The only reason I said what I said is you did have a good time but then it seems like you changed gears and rules on him. I mean you may have told him how you felt about texting or even text him call me or called him, however he seems to be getting a lot of strikes for nothing.
There is a guy I have been seeing very casually for 3-4 years (not TOM A), he is a work-aholic he often breaks dates and the time between text is sometimes months. I never trip on him, I simply filed him in the no expectations fun date category. Now a few days ago he text me, after a while of no contact. The last convo we had was he wanted to come see me (like this is the umpteeneth I’m coming to visit you conversation we had) so he text some ol I miss you BS I said whateva and had a polite conversation with him about what was going on in our lives etc. He even tried to be mad I came to town and didn’t tell him. For the record, I didn’t tell him because I was with the one I wanted to be with (TOM A), but anyway he isn’t a person he just we always be a friend to me. I feel it would be dramatical (I know it’s not a word) for me to even give him the energy to be mad at who he is as a person. I find that being a waste of my chi. I hope that makes sense. That’s why I said unnecessary drama. However it’s your life LIVE IT!! I’m sure you are doing what works best for you or asking the obligatory Dr. Phil question of How’s This Behavior working for you?
-OG
Okay...I totally feel what you are saying OG! And I agree with most of it! ;) I just like to document the silliness of relationships in general.
Oh yeah, he does know I don't care to text all the time!
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