Thursday, July 9, 2009

I think I may be off the market...

Things are going almost TOO well with MatchMan. We still talk on the phone for an insane amount of hours everyday. We have also spent as much time as possible together. BUT July is his month to be a full-time daddy. He has an 11 year old daughter, and he sees her quite regularly as it is, but he has her full-time this month. This has slowed down our progress a bit, which may be a good thing. Even though I happily accept this, he does not. This past Sunday, he called and asked me if I wanted to go to a movie with him and his daughter on Monday afternoon. I was shocked that he would want me to meet her so early. I mean, she had been around when we spoke on the phone a few times, so she did know OF me. I asked over and over if he was sure he was ready for this, and he acknowledged that it was early, but said he thought it was a good idea to move forward.

MatchMan and daughter picked me up at my apartment on Monday afternoon for our "date". She is a cute little thing...adorable really. My inner-teacher loves the fact that she is well-behaved and well-spoken. She is polite, and she loves her daddy to death. After some video games and a movie, we went to eat and then headed back to my place. She loved my cats, probably more than I do. They stayed at my apartment for about an hour so she could play with them. I was surprised that he showed affection toward me in front of the kid. He held my hand a couple times, put his arm around me while we sat on the couch, and gave me a quick kiss goodbye as they were leaving. About an hour after they left, MatchMan sent me a text that said, "She liked you and the cats. Good job!" Now I'm beginning to feel a tinge of nervousness about our upcoming date this weekend. It's THAT TIME. We have done a whole lot of "making out", but we haven't been horizontal together yet, if ya know what I mean? We'll see what the future holds on Sunday night! A friend of his is in town for the weekend, and there is a pool party for his daughter's birthday on Saturday. I've also scheduled a girls' night in for Saturday, so unfortunately, Sunday is the best we can do right now.

As for RM, I finally told him I was seeing someone, and he responded, "Oh, that's why you've been ignoring me." I really didn't much to say to that, as RM will argue with a tree if the breeze blows its leaves in the opposite direction. Two days later, he actually DIALED MY NUMBER!!! That's one of the things that annoys me about him...he constantly wants to have FULL conversations via text. When I didn't answer, he then sent a text saying, " could say HELLO sometimes!" Unfortunately, I was on my "date" with MatchMan and his daughter at the time. I didn't see the missed call and text until several hours later, because my phone was silenced. I sent an apology text telling him that I was in a movie when he called; I would've called but it was kind of late. This is how the rest of the text convo went down:

RM: Thanks for the invite

Me: Well, the guy I was with wouldn't have appreciated that too much. I met his daughter today.

RM: I hope he's serious introducing u to his daughter so early

Me: We'll see

RM: I called u today and the other day to discuss where I am w/ relationships and possibly entertain giving it a try but the other possible chick and u r now off limits so I guess Im back to bein me...its cool tho

I'm not going to lie. I didn't respond, and I haven't called him. It's funny how he never once wanted a relationship until I met MatchMan's daughter (note: I've NEVER met RM's kids in all the years I've known him!). It's also interesting to me that there is suddenly another "possible chick"...all laughable, really.

Oh yeah, I told the Ex-Coworker that I had met someone, and I didn't feel right about having him in town for the weekend the weekend before he was to arrive. He didn't take it well at all. He didn't believe that I had just met MatchMan and accused me of lying to him the past few months. Of course, now he refuses to talk to me.


Therapeutic Ramblings said...

Wow....look at you, adult dating! It sounds promising!

I hope it works, but kids complicate things....a lot. I tried, but I felt too much pressure for InstantFamily.

Take.Things.Slow. (in regard to hanging with the daughter, etc).

jokes4ever said...

you have CATS!!!!! LMAO! since when

CurvyGurl ♥ said...

Sheesh...funny how they always resurface when someone new is in the picture. Glad to see you're doing well, girlie!

f1trey said...

be know how these things can go.....boom ......bust!!! enjoy yourself and do it right!!!! Peace!

lisaq said...

Good for you. It's sooo nice to hear that things are going well. As for RM, can you say emotionally unavailable? Ugh! Good riddance to that one I think!

SaneAndSingle said...

Thanks for the well wishes all! And yes, I'm taking it easy.

Jokes- Um, yes I have 2 cats. And I've pretty much had at least one cat since I was a kid. Why are you so surprised?

jo said...

ooh meeting the kids is a big deal. so are you guys gonna have the dtr (define the relationship) talk?

Roxy said...

wow this is so exciting! I am excited how things are going.

As for RM... he's an attention whore. You know he's be dickin u around if MatchMan wasn't in the picture.

Good Luck this weekend!

Dimplz said...

I don't know you or RM, but he doesn't want a relationship now. He's only saying that because he knows it's safe. Kind of like when someone wants you to do something incredibly boring or cumbersome, and you don't want to go, and then you breathe a sigh of relief when they decide they don't want to go. Don't fall for it. Go ahead with Matchman and enjoy it!