Sunday, September 13, 2009

The Stalker's Story

So you want to know more about the Stalker, huh? After meeting this scrumptious young man* over at my girlfriend's place, he found me on a popular social networking site. How, you ask? So did I! He knew my first name and my friend's first name. He later told me that he looked up my friend's profile first, because she has an unusual name. He knew I would be on her friends list. He also said he went to my employer's website to look for employees with my first name. Determined little booger, isn't he?

So began the text-affair. It went on for two days. On the third day, I asked him to tell me something funny because I had a rough day at work. Instead, he told me to come outside my apartment. Yeah! There he was! He told me he thought that a hug would be better than a funny text message. sweet! But wait a durn minute! "How the hell did he know where I live?", I thought to myself. Hmm... So, me being me, I asked! Of course, he knew which apartment complex I live in, because my girlfriend lives in the same one**, just below his buddy who was having the cookout when we met. He said he just drove around until he saw my car. Should I be freaked or flattered? To tell the truth, I was a little of both.

Yes, before you all start calling me a cheater, he does know about MatchMan, and we have done nothing physically beyond a hug. He has a "situation" himself. Brace yourselves. He lives with his ex-girlfriend, who will be moving to another state next month. Wait! That's not all! You know I can't meet a desirable man without some kind of catch! He says that they only broke up in order "to grow as individuals". Um, excuse me, but how is that possible if they still live together? Wait!!! It gets even better!

Stalker says he and his ex may get back together officially in the next couple weeks before she moves hundreds of miles away for her new job. Is it just me, or does that sound bass-akwards? My thinking on this is, "If it ain't working while you live in the same city in the same home, how the hell will it work long distance?" I mean, even the BEST of relationships are difficult when they are long distance. And of course, I said this to him. His answer? "We will revisit it to be sure it is the right decision." I guess when you are young, dumb, and in love, you must learn the hard way. The two of them are still living together, but not "together". They have also made a deal not to become physical with other people until they know what they are doing, although they aren't having sex anymore. He claims she is afraid it will cloud her judgement about him. All too damn confusing to me...sounds like she doesn't want him but doesn't want anyone else to have him either.

Stalker and I have decided to be "just friends"..."just friends" with a whole lotta sexual tension and innuendoes bouncing in the air all around us, even through text messages. We have hung out a couple times a week since we first met. One good thing has come of it...I've developed a love of bowling. Nope, I had never bowled until two weeks ago, when he taught me! Such fun! We have a TV date tonight for True Blood.

As for MatchMan, I've told him I need a little time to think. How do you let someone go when you truly care about him, but you know he may not be the best thing for you in the long run? He has some life-restructuring to complete, and I'm not sure I have what it takes to hang in there. I'm at a point in my life that I need a man who has it together already.

*8-9 years actually!
**in a different's a large complex


CurvyGurl ♥ said...

ROFL....girl, please do not give him the cookie, he's the type you'd never get rid of. Ummm...why do I have a feeling that his ex is moving to get away from him?

You know what...I miss you! In a non-stalkerish

jo said...

okay i think i would be a lil more freaked than flattered. but maybe your charms are simply irresistable that a man will do whatever it takes to hunt you down :P

the situation with him and his ex sounds complex to say the least. i think that this isn't the guy for you to get involved in.

as for matchman, i'm glad that you were honest with him in that you need some time to think. though i wonder if there are any parameters for that like are you allowed to see other people etc... sometimes it's hard 'coz you actually really do care for the person. but ultimately if you don't think he's best for you in the long run, it's better to let it go earlier rather than later...

lisaq said...

Never dull, is it?!

StudentOfLife said...

Well you know how I feel. MatchMan was great at the beginning for about two weeks before all the drama hit and he hasn't been the same since. He should have let you go when he realized he couldn't be the man he wanted to be for you but he's letting you be the 'bad guy' by ending it. You know cliche's always come in handy in these situations... If it's meant to be it will be in the end. :-)

The youngin' has issues and likes you but I do worry about you giving him the cookie. If you do, wait a few weeks after the g/f is gone to see how he acts and what he does. If he starts chasing every skirt that passes him by, you'll know he's not worthy of you.

Dimplz said...

I don't believe a word of the together, but not together story. You and Matchman have not put in that much time together yet, so it's better to end it before it gets worse. Both sound like a waste of time, but of course, it's just my opinion.

Therapeutic Ramblings said...

1. MatchMan is a bad idea.
2. This guy is still sleeping with his ex'. He is looking out for his #1 when his 'not-g/f' leaves in a bit. RUN. Oh, and a complete stalker.

ps. CurvyGurl: I need to read that Steve Harvey book....that is easily the 4th or 5th reference I've heard to it.

Roxy said...

i do admire interest... but yeah a titch creepy. And getting back with the live-in ex before she moves? unstable